Celebrate to enrich Yourself

Celebration is important for You.
Celebration not just limited to the conventional meaning of the term.

The art of celebration lies in celebrating your life.
Which simply means celebrating your life each day– with your everyday chores included. Celebrating a small noble deed by You. Celebrating all that You have. And celebrating all that You give.

It is not impractical at all. Celebration becomes a natural way of living your life once You give yourself a chance to stay Happy with yourself.
Because then, when you become non-violent to yourself (i.e. stop hurting yourself), you begin to spread love and Happiness around.
It is then that the chores may begin to sound like choirs.

— © Happiness Incorporated !

Morning is the best time for a Happiness-Resolution

The art of acting towards your Happiness lies not much in performing physical actions.

It lies in your resolve to stay Happy.

And there is no substitute to this resolution of yours. It is the starting point and the point that helps You sustain Happiness.



This simple resolution of yours is tremendously powerful when it comes to helping You stay Happy. So You should first resolve to stay Happy.



And what other time of the day is better than the morning. Morning is the most potent time for this resolution to take root. To spring into action. To become a reality.



Remind yourself of your resolve to stay Happy - every morning and see your life change.



— © Happiness Incorporated !

Your Everyday is The Foundation Day

Let us undertake a small act. Recall one entity which

· arrives regularly in your Life and,

· is the most overlooked in your entire lifecycle…



Chances are that if You allowed some time before reaching an answer, You would agree that this entity is ’Your Everyday’. Your poor fellow Everyday.

So, what does overlooking the value in your very many ‘Everydays’ bring?



Your ‘Everyday’ is your most potent investment opportunity. Investing towards avoid­ing future despair and disappointment in Life.



Your daily investment in enabling You to stay Happy throughout. An invest­ment that has immediate, medium-term and lifelong returns. The ‘Everyday’ that approaches You, lives itself and passes-by is the foundation.

The Foundation for achieving a “I am mostly-Happy” state of being.



— © Happiness Incorporated !

Life in action, at a traffic junction

You often experience the best learning incidentally.

Often while looking around to find ‘Similarities’ You discover ‘Laws’.
Finding Similarities is great fun. And finding Laws, great value.
And where is more value than learning the Laws of life—incidentally.

So are Laws of Life floating around You? Waiting to be discovered by You…
For if You discover the Law, You possess the best knowledge on action (what to do), emotion (how to feel), Happiness (its value).

From where You learn the Law is entirely up to You. But there are of course pointers available to You. Next time You are waiting at the Traffic Junction You have some great laws of Life to decipher. Like:

“You often have to give way to others in life. For the better. You may stop in life briefly, but only to move forward again. With a new vigor. And when life forces You to stop for a while, You have an opportunity to reflect. For discovering its Laws. For the next spell to be even greater.”

— © Happiness Incorporated !

Happiness is the base, not a canopy

W hen it comes to staying Happy , there is an unfailing principle—

' To Act towards Happiness is to Achieve it'.



'Act' is not any physical action here.

'Act' implies a resolution in You, by You, for You.



A resolute You who has decided to value Happiness. And this is the starting point.



And then occurs a transformation of a (mere) desire in You to be Happy.

Transformation of a mere desire into a state where Happiness really becomes an accomplishment in your life .

An accomplishment w hen, to You, Happiness is no longer a state where tensions are absent. It is a base on top of which every other act, thought, emotion rests. When Happiness is the base, not a canopy, You have accomplished Happiness .



— © Happiness Incorporated !

Value what You feel

Life is somehow calling You to live it to the fullest.

And its ways are strange indeed. At times,
Calling You through the gorgeous sight of a winter sun;
Whispering it to You through the breeze that brushes past;
Reminding through the smile that You bring on somebody's face and changes her world completely for that precious moment.

Most unhappiness results from overlooking the beauty in things around You. Small things that are simply beautiful if You realize. These are private, intense, and unfailing paths to your Happiness. And this is not a 'justification'- a reason 'invented' for You to feel Happy.

Most unhappy are those amongst us who skip such 'moments' to anticipate some kind of a grand finale to their Happiness pursuit - some strange predestined event that one day will come and will usher in unimaginable quantity of Happiness in their lives. (The only possible exaggeration in this statement being that most of us don't have ONE such event, but instead a few such events).

To Do: Anticipate great events. It is good. But do not make Happiness wait until the arrival of 'big' events. Let the big ones just be add-ons, to the large quantity of Happiness You have gathered through living each moment, every day.

— © Happiness Incorporated !

Being Confident is a cakewalk if You can be Happy

Today is the day to revitalize and charge Yourself up. To begin afresh on learning to act towards Happiness. To work towards it.

‘The Happiness Dose’ new volume is all Yours today. But that’s not the reason You need to celebrate. The celebration of Happiness and Life should need no reason. Never try to find a reason for being Happy. Just be it.

We start-off with a fresh set of pointers to Your Happiness this week. With what You aptly helped us name- ’The Happiness Dose’.

The Dose: Being Confident is a cakewalk if You can be Happy

You perhaps simply can not believe (at this moment) that there is a correlation between being Happy on one hand and being Confident on the other. How can they be? Well, they don’t seem to until You do a small exercise. Visualize people You think are confident with what they do (please spare the arrogant ones). Pause. Now independently think of those who seem to be Happy doing what they do. Period.

If the world hasn’t changed too rapidly since we last experimented with this (when we found that these two sets of persons are almost the same), then You would want to know further.

Your confidence level and Your Happiness levels are closely related.
And it’s more overarching (the dependence of the two) than You probably realized ever. Your confidence in a nervous board room discussion (do we mention ‘at work’) may be originating in the Happiness You grab at home. Through your spouse, children, friends.

In case You experiment with it (and You should explore) You should find that it indeed works this way. And as with most things in life, the law exists: You use it or not doesn’t make a difference to the Law. But it makes a difference to those who remember to utilize the Law.

The secret of exploiting this Law is: the proverbial ‘green pasture’, which we have been told, ‘always lies on the other side’, no longer holds true for You. From now on, all the green pastures are right beneath Your feet- where you are placed!

A happy person (Yes, there are such persons... Yes, within this species) finds it smooth and easy to relate to the world. Relate to the situation she is into. Relate to her surroundings and challenges. Be these personal or professional.

This makes a person much more confident. Confident enough to fight a situation, confident enough to be what she is in the face of a victory and a loss.

Suppose you go to a friend's place. You meet many people there. Few you know & others you are meeting for the first time. How do you let out your best in such a situation? Are you anxious, do you portray yourself as something you are not, or do you do 'measured' talking fearing others?

All of this would depend on what you have been thinking, what you have been practicing, what you have been doing with your life, with your days and with your Happiness levels everyday.

Yes, if you have been thinking, practicing & living Happiness in any aspect of your Life, then there is only one way you can perform. The behavior of yours is clearly in one direction- effusing confidence. The confident attitude is because of the peaceful & calm state of your being which allows you to feel at home in the moment. Rest assured, you are so much in the moment that you are just yourself. This being yourself makes you confident.

How easy it is now to see the correlation. Which most of us miss out on.

Looking back You realize that all those moments when you felt most confident about yourself, You were most happy as well.

But You would do justice to your confidence levels only if You can turn such moments into days, and days into a lifetime.

— © Happiness Incorporated !

Happiness- An Outcome of being true to yourself

The Dose: Happiness- An Outcome of being true to yourself


At HI !, we are all set to begin afresh on learning to act towards Happiness. 'The Happiness Dose' next volume is ready to be floated.

Yet Happiness is not to be hurried. So, today we remind ourselves of something rather impor­tant before we start-off with the new volume of pointers to Your Happiness.

To remind ourselves, perhaps, of the most important ingredient of Happiness. The one ingredi­ent to Happiness that You may overlook easily - 'You being true to Yourself'. By far, known to be the most significant determinant of Your lasting Happiness.

The Dose 7 Revisited : Happiness- An Outcome of being true to yourself

Here's an acid test to find how You can differentiate between being true and not-being-true to Yourself.

We take up a real-life situation to throw tons of light on the test. A 'close' friend requests You. This request is a simple one where she needs Your time for something important for her. Let's see two typical responses of human beings (and who are others to tag any one to You. That's your take always !)

Response 1: " I don't have time today. I refuse her. She will feel dejected for sure. But she will at least not be falsely dependent on me. She and her work will not suffer by my rejec­tion. "

Response 2: " Oh God. She has been such a 'good' friend. What will she think of me if I re­fuse. But why did she ask me for my time today . Can't she see! I have none. She could have asked me yesterday. It would have saved me this embarrassment of saying no. What will she think of me now. Let me promise now. Later I can say a ' sorry' and give her some reason."

Response 2 being particularly longer is no co-incidence. All good things (that last) in life are simple and short . When You choose to remain true to Yourself , what you do is a confident, definitive behavior. You don't fool around, You don't deceive. And You don't feel like deceiving, it comes naturally. Because You know You will have to keep it very very complex otherwise and it's You who will get stuck in Life with such deceptive complexities . And Happiness indeed is in being simple to Yourself. Being what You are and letting others know what you are. For then, those who truly love You will matter, not the one's who make You fool around - harming Your own inner-confidence. Others will simply loose their power to affect You negatively .

In innovative terms: "You may fool Happiness into visiting You once in a while. But without You being true to yourself, Happiness somehow knows it's got to leave, pretty quickly."

— © Happiness Incorporated !

Taking Decisions- Your Stability Matters

The Dose: Taking Decisions- Your Stability Matters


We continue review ing the progress towards Happiness. It pays to review.

Not in the least for 'learning' more on The Doses. The Dose is just a pointer.

But only to continuously remind oneself - there are simple actions one can take that lead to great volume of Happiness.

The Dose points to such simple actions You can consider acting on in Your Life — Life as You live it— with its routine, rigor and pleasure. In all hues and in all colors. In attempting this continuity, a review benefits.


The Dose 6 Revisited: Stability determines the ' better' among your D ecision alternatives

Decision making—An art or A science? Well, it may be any or both. But to many it seems like sheer Magic. And Magic in more than one way. Magic because whatever You decide there is often dissatisfaction at the end. Magic because 'the other' guy always seems to take it better than You do. Or at least she seems more confident after choosing her alternative, while You doubt yours. Magic because You somehow always end up wishing a re-chance. A second chance to somehow make a 'better one' this time. Magic because a re-chance is a rare occurrence.

Objectivity plays a role. Often, more objectively taken decisions turn out to be better. But there are other factors. The chance issue, the issue of unforeseen circumstances, the missing information issue. The list is endless. Uncertainty bugs. But You need to decide anyhow. So what's the best strategy?

Given this, Stability has a great value in letting You take optimal decisions. Stability in You. Stability - a state where You are under control. You are optimally excited about the problem You have to decide on. Not more, not less. Your thoughts, your logical faculties, your ability-set all work in harmony.

Your state of mind is matched to meet the challenge. You are putting Your best foot forward. You neither act great nor feel inferior, You are simply being yourself. In not trying to be any greater (or inferior) than You actually are, You are allowing yourself the freedom to decide rationally. You are safe from anxiety that strikes in the last hour and kills your deserved prize.

The Stability Principle advises you to go for the alternative that seems the best in your stable states of mind. And of course, since You never can predict when You may have to take impor­tant decisions, it pays to employ the Stability principle in Your daily life.



— Happiness Incorporated !

Verbal Harmlessness - Your Tribute to Relationships

The Dose: Verbally Harmless...are You?


Your being regular with The Dose now (re) introduces You to the next good thing in Life. ' Reintroduce' because this is of course a revisit to some good stuff learned along the way, one we have been talking about.

Ways You can act in and fill your life with Happiness. Or, preferably the other way round.

Acting, as You are on many fronts in life, do all along keep wondering on "Know, Act, See" - the Basic Fundament (to Happiness??)

The Dose is just the "know" part. It may even be less—at just being a "pointer" to the process of dis­covering, knowing about the simple possibilities of staying Happy.



You surely, today or tomorrow, are going to act towards staying Happy. Of course, the Happiness Desiring Machine works too hard to desire Happiness from your so many every-days. But poor is its delivery indeed for everyone not just You.



Can You act now? Let's turn to an opportunity to Act towards Happiness. Let's learn to act on Verbal Harmlessness.

The Dose 5: Verbal Harmlessness & Your Relationships - Life's quality revolves around the rela­tionships that you weave. Both- relations You choose to enter into and relationships You are born into.

Verbal Harmlessness is a difficult phrase but a simple act. An act that takes You a step for­ward towards a satisfying relationship. The one act that differentiates 'commitment' from 'contract' in all your relations.

Verbal Harmlessness—simply allowing the anger to subside (it's not difficult. Can you count till 10, in around 10 seconds...then come on you can master-manage your anger), the hurt-words to disappear, letting negativity dissolve before being effused out on your loved ones.

Inflicting pain through revenge has no place in the most beautiful of your possessions—your loved ones. That is, in case of a misunderstanding, You offer your maturity and empathy– not your revenge. And You do it not for "the other" but for Yourself. Coz it's [You]r relationship. You don't hurt back. You remain Verbally Harmless– believing in the wisdom of the moment and strength of [You]r relation.

The mere reduction of (often) unconscious, anger-generated, hurt-based responses acts as a tribute from you, as an equal participant in any relationship.

And then relations become satisfying.

Did we emphasize enough? To Act is to Achieve.



— Happiness Incorporated !

Anxiety, the Happiness-Bouncer

The Dose: Anxiety, the Happiness-Bouncer


Happy-weight: A weight that You always want to gain !

With The Dose, we make sure You are never on a dieting schedule.

We want You to gain Happy-weight. Be regular with The Dose !



We revisited 3 of The Doses to make sure we keep reminding You that Happiness is about acting to­wards it. At least 3 Kg Happy-weight under Your control—for ever.



Let's continue with our revisit. Today revisiting The Dose most crucial for 'Life' in Your Life.

Our guess is– it is a life-condition most of us can identify with.

Anxiety. Mild, moderate and Wild. We are not sorry - even if the word is too scary to You.

In fact, that's the reason it's here.

For a control over Anxiety.

Your Control.



The Dose 4: Managing Anxiety – Some call it a lifestyle problem, some call it a personal prob­lem. What do we call it? Happiness-Bouncer. Anxiety makes sure You don't enter the arena of freshness, Happiness. It will bounce You back. And it does its job perfect!

Everyone is having a nice time fighting it day in and day out. Isn't it? Like social networking sitess fighting it out for attention.

Within You and without You—anxiety is easy to spot. We saw "The Dose" on Managing Anxiety. Did You find an opportunity to experiment with changes due to healthier deductions in your life. Did You manage to spot any Truth in that the art of mastering anxiety lies in healthy Deduc­tions after all.

And what after all are "Healthy Deductions" — Healthy and smart ways to defeat stressful and demanding situations in Life. Simple "confidence-generating" attitude towards demanding situa­tions. Powerful because healthy deductions help You set the rules of the "confidence-game". Rather than letting the demanding event decide the rules of (its) winning.

It builds confidence because, the higher your assessment of your own ability to handle things in life, lower is your anxiety. Simply by deducing an event in your favor, the best outcome is achieved (some call it "attitude" which is a way of deduction towards all challenges).

Try it. You will see it. As we say at HI !, act, see, believe.

— Happiness Incorporated !

You must have put on at least 7 Kg more Happy-weight

HI !
Welcome to Happiness At 1 Kg Per Day

The Assumption: At Happiness Incorporated (HI!), we be­lieve Happiness is a nutrient.
A Mega Nutrient.
Vitamins could be sufficient in micro-units, but with Happi­ness nothing short of 1Kg would do.

The Act: Happiness At 1 Kg Per Day is an electro-human attempt to make sure we at HI! contribute towards your daily Happiness intake of 1Kg.


The Dose
You must have put on at least 7 Kg more Happy-weight over last week. And why not!! You have had seven regular Daily Doses of Happiness this full week.
Definitely a good head start if you actually implemented The Doses in your daily life.

Let's review our progress towards Happiness—gradually.
Those of us who missed a couple of this week's The Doses can as always have them at www.happinessincorporated.blogspot.com .

The Dose 1: Deque-ing- The art of transforming all unpleasant recurring stale thought. This becomes a natural action for You as You understand that the old input produces only old non-cheerful output.

Pumping-in of fresh inputs to yourself must have surely made you feel elated and happy!!!

The Dose 2: Grounded-in-the-Moment Technique. Meeting life-challenges as & where they arise. Never looking away when the challenges strike. Because otherwise, if given an opportunity by You, i.e. if You look away from the challenge, the challenge will be more than pleased to haunt you.

You must have experienced the exuberance You feel when You did not leave any of the daytime resi­due (by looking away we leave residue of the entire situation...not a fresh thing to do) behind.

The Dose 3: Happiness Advocacy. Sure enough you have tried this extraordinary opportunity to ap­preciate your Life's Happiness - by seeing closely and appreciating "what makes people around me happy & unhappy?" Your appreciation for Happiness, its value to You and its need in your daily life is greatly enhanced by You advocating Happiness with your closed and far ones alike. To recall, we saw that in the process of advocating Happiness to others around You, You would gradually master the art of being prepared for all events in your own Life.

In the end, You be Happy even when surrounded with testing situations in Life! Look who's feeling confident these days!

And Last but never the least.
The Golden Rule of Happiness:
Happiness is too little of reading about Happiness.
Happiness is a little about passively thinking about Happiness.
Happiness is too much about acting to demand Happiness for Yourself.

So Act to Get Happiness.
Coz It pays to be Happy.

— Happiness Incorporated !

Discover your Intention, Discover Yourself

HI ! Welcome to Happiness At 1 Kg Per Day

The Assumption:
At Happiness Incorporated (HI!), we believe Happiness is a nutrient.
A Mega Nutrient.
Vitamins could be sufficient in micro-units, but with Happiness nothing short of 1Kg would do.

The Act:
Happiness At 1 Kg Per Day is an electro-human attempt to make sure we at HI! contribute towards your daily Happiness intake of 1Kg.


The Dose:
Discover your Intention, Discover Yourself


"Have I been true to myself ?", You would sometimes find yourself wondering. You wonder what has been the real "Intention" behind what You said, or not said, did or did not do. This may sometimes be apparent through your actions and at other times in others' actions done to You.

Indeed many of your acts, gestures and behaviours (towards others like your colleagues) may make You face this question.The question is relevant. The question is important for You.

Because if you can manage a correct answer to this question, You are more free, You are less hypocritical. You are more confident of who you are. In short, You are more You if You answer it successfully, truly.

That being true, how do you sincerely answer that question - not for your friends, your known ones, for others, but only for your own self.

Read the Sequence: A sincere answer to this question is had by noticing the sequencing of your own thoughts. The sequence (i.e. order) of those thoughts that made you act, behave in that particular manner. It is strange yet true that Intentions are less determined by the quality of thoughts (yes...even negative thoughts cannot be said to be ill-intentioned). They are much more determined by their sequence, their order of occurrence.

A 'close' friend has asked you for your time.

Your Thought Sequence number 1: I don't have time today. Let me refuse her. She will feel dejected for sure. But She will not be falsely dependent on me. She and her work will benefit by my rejection overall.

Your Thought Sequence number 2: Oh God. She has been such a 'good' friend. What will she think of me. Today I don't want to give her time. But why did she ask me for my time. I have none. Can't she see! She could have asked me yesterday. It would have saved me this embarrassment of saying no. What will she think of me now. Let me promise now. Later I can say sorry and give her a reason too.

Sequence 2 being particularly longer is no co-incidence.
Because most good things in life are simple and straight forward.
And Your Intentions are no exception.

--HI!

Take Better Decisions: Use the Stability Principle

HI !
Welcome to Happiness At 1 Kg Per Day

The Assumption:
At Happiness Incorporated (HI!), we believe Happiness is a nutrient.
A Mega Nutrient.
Vitamins could be sufficient in micro-units, but with Happiness nothing short of 1Kg would do.


The Act:
Happiness At 1 Kg Per Day is an electro-human attempt to make sure we at HI! contribute towards your daily Happiness intake of 1Kg.


The Dose:
Take Better Decisions: Use the Stability Principle

Not a day passes when you do not have to take decisions.
However Small or Big - Decisions continue to demand an answer from you- day in and day out.
And often there is no alternative to taking definitive decisions. You simply have to decide.

Post-Decision: very often a feeling of dissatisfaction lingers after you have taken a decision.
Many times even when you have decided, you somehow keep returning to feeling that the one alternative you did not choose would have been better (esp for the so called 'big' decisions in life) .

This situation is not a comfortable one to be in. You yourself can rate the life quality where such a post-decision dissatisfaction has become a routine occurrence - a daily juggling between competing alternatives - where each somehow seems better than the rest.

One stands to gain from The Stability Principle. The Stability Principle can largely reduce this post-decision dissatisfaction.
It helps you choose the alternative that gives you the optimal satisfaction - after being decided for. This is after all the objective of you making any decision.

For instance, when you switch jobs, the decision of choosing a firm is based on your assessment of where your optimal satisfaction lies. This principle is based on the observation that the one alternative that is adjudged as the best (by You) in the Stable states of your being (essentially remaining calm, restful, un-agitated) is indeed the best alternative. Thus, The Stability Principle advises you to go for the alternative that seems the best in your stable states of mind.

Stable State of mind is not a hypothetical entity. Just avoid juggling between alternatives at the 11th hour. This is because, most likely, the alternative chosen when you are anyways agitated by the arrival of the decision-moment (performance anxiety) is less than optimal.


A Stable Decision is the one which is taken during Stable States of your being. Be Confident.


--HI !

Up Against Happiness-Blockers? Act

HI !
Welcome to Happiness@1KgPerDay

The Assumption:
At Happiness Incorporated (HI!), we believe Happiness is a nutrient.
A Mega Nutrient.
Vitamins could be sufficient in micro-units, but with Happiness nothing short of 1Kg would do.


The Act:
Happiness@1KgPerDay is an electro-human attempt to make sure we at HI! contribute towards your daily intake of 1Kg.

The Dose:
Happiness is too little of reading about Happiness
Happiness is a little about passively thinking about Happiness.
Happiness is too much about acting to demand Happiness for Yourself.

So Act to Get Happiness.

--HI !

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Implement Verbal Harmlessness in Your Relationships

HI !
Welcome to Happiness@1KgPerDay

The Assumption:
At Happiness Incorporated (HI!), we believe Happiness is a nutrient.
A Mega Nutrient.
Vitamins could be sufficient in micro-units, but with Happiness nothing short of 1Kg would do.


The Act:
Happiness@1KgPerDay is an electro-human attempt to make sure we at HI! contribute towards your daily intake of 1Kg.


The Dose:
Implement Verbal Harmlessness in Your Relationships.

Many of your relationships would be extremely important - simply invaluable- to you.
Relationships, for all, continue to be the life-breath.

It follows that your life's quality and Happiness critically depends on relationships you weave.
Most of us apparently realize it; and thus most of us indeed work towards making our relationships more beautiful.

But often we find relationships turning 'unsatisfactory'.
Beauty begins to make way for rules and protocols - to start with. If destined to go worse, erosion of trust sets in gradually. Deterioration sets in.

We struggle within our capacity to stem the tide of unsavoury events. We do everything we can to bring back the happy days. From pleading over unending telephone calls to undertaking emotionally laden discussions.
Yet something seems missing very many times. A move to make things naturally healthy.

Verbal Harmlessness may be the thing for you. Verbal Harmlessness can beautifully transform relationships that at some point turned sour (for no good reason many a times).

Verbal Harmlessness works in relationships where things were not meant to proceed the way they actually proceeded. Thus it is suitable in cases where the foundation of the relation is based on sincerity - but misunderstanding is calling the cards somehow.

Verbal Harmlessness as a strategy implies reducing the unconscious, anger-generated, hurt-based responses on your part. These and many other responses in relationships are ' verbally harmful responses'. The exact way such verbally harmful responses are reduced may vary with issue at hand and nature of the relationship. However, the strong commonality between all such measures of achieving Verbal Harmlessness is to invoke (and recall into the moment) the crux on which the relationship is based. If the relationship bound you, made your life beautiful at one point- it had a crux. The crux still lingers deep down, just that it gets lost in what is called as the 'responsibility diffusion'- the issue of 'who does it first'.

In fact, Verbal Harmlessness is not just a strategy to make relationships work. It is a tribute from you, as an equal participant in the relationship. 'Strategy'- it is being called - to make doubly sure that you feel its practical and useful.

Verbal Harmlessness is a tribute in your intention; strategy in your implementation.


--HI !

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Manage your Anxiety - How Deductions can help you

HI !
Welcome to Happiness@1KgPerDay

The Assumption:
At Happiness Incorporated (HI!), we believe Happiness is a nutrient.
A Mega Nutrient.
Vitamins could be sufficient in micro-units, but with Happiness nothing short of 1Kg would do.


The Act:
Happiness@1KgPerDay is an electro-human attempt to make sure we at HI! contribute towards your daily intake of 1Kg.


The Dose:
Manage your Anxiety - How deductions can help you.

Anxiety remains the single largest contributor to performance decrements.
Anxiety- like an intelligent spy- gets onto your nerves during the most critical phases of your life.
Anxiety more often than not strikes you during those 'high-return' events in life that have the potentiality to change a lot of things for the better. Potentially step up the success factor in your life. As if anxiety knows where it is invited the most- at events where your performance needs to be the best. Anxiety strikes and makes you yield much decreased performance outcomes.

Deductions are pretty useful in managing anxiety.
Deductions are nothing but simple yet powerful "ways" in which any anxiety-invoking incidence is faced by you.
Deductions help you to meet the anxiety-invoking event in a way that best aids enhanced performance - and not decrease it. Deduction helps you manage anxiety and ensure a consequent increment in performance.

Deduction: See anxiety in terms of the 'gap' between the perceived event (i.e. an event's anticipation by you, before it occurs) and the actual event (actual occurrence in space and time). Anxiety will always be more if this gap is large.
It is this gap that determines how 'anxious' you are before a particular event.

You have no control over the actual event in most cases. It, thus turns out, is your perception of the event as being larger than your-own-self that induces anxiety. It is important to appreciate this. Anxiety primarily arises because of the perceived gap between your capacity to handle the event and what you think (perceive) the event demands. The actual event's challenge is far away when anxiety strikes. Hence, definitely it is an inferior response on your part. If anxiety's only output is your performance decrement (whatever be the challenge level in actual), you better do away with it.

It is from this observation that you easily learn how to 'deduce' the event in your favour. The best deduction is the one that brings out the best in you. This is all you CAN do - since in most cases the actual event's challenge level is not under your control. The more important thing is not "CAN" but "HAVE".

Best-deduction-practices:
Let's remind ourselves of a starting point. Recall an event (past) that you think you would have finished with much greater output had you managed your anxiety. Did you recall anything?

So you know what to do next time anxiety strikes!


--HI !

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You will be Happier if you are a Happiness-Advocate !

HI !
Welcome to Happiness@1KgPerDay


The Assumption:
At Happiness Incorporated (HI!), we believe Happiness is a nutrient.
A Mega Nutrient.
Vitamins could be sufficient in micro-units, but with Happiness nothing short of 1Kg would do.


The Act:
Happiness@1KgPerDay is an electro-human attempt to make sure we at HI! contribute towards your daily intake of 1Kg.


The Dose:
You will be Happier if you are a Happiness-Advocate !

Happiness & then more happiness. You want it. Alright.
But do you get MORE happiness simply by desiring it?
Desiring is insufficient most of the times.

One way which can potentially bring more Happiness to you is Happiness-Advocacy.
Let's talk about Happiness-Advocacy here.

Happiness-Advocacy is a state-of-being expressed as your acts, gestures, expressions throughout the day.
A state-of-being where you convey to people (with due sincerety) that you value happiness, you connect with them by inquiring (empathy only) as to how (happy) they are, you make people see the value of their lives and advantages of being happy about their own lives - all of which is Happiness-Advocacy .

It works this way. Every time you do these and other related things you have an extraordinary opportunity to appreciate life. To appreciate what makes people happy and or unhappy. This is invaluable - you have an opportunity to know what are the likely 'life-events and life-conditions' that cause sadness and happiness in people.
Simply put, Happiness-Advocacy enormously helps you build your appreciation of life.
Thus, you learn to guard yourself against most instances leading to un-happiness.

'Guarding yourself' is not avoiding situations which are likely to bring sadness. Guard means being fully prepared to face challenges.
Just as an instance, imagine an acquaintance of yours not happy about the 'uncertainty' in her career direction and or objectives. She doesn't know if she is doing what she really wants to do- whether things will fall in place one day.
A sincere and non-hypocritical Happiness-Advocacy by you with this acquaintance would enrich your view on life beyond you can imagine. Your empathy will bring tremendous Happiness to you, and perhaps to your acquaintance as well.
This will occur irrespective of the fact that beyond Happiness-Advocacy you have absolutely no 'solution' to her career dilemma.

Happiness-Advocacy works wonders. Your advocating Happiness's virtue enables you to guard yourself (and your dear ones) from potential sadness caused by life's uncertainty (which could very much be there in your relationships as well). Happiness-Advocacy - be it with your spouse, your siblings, your children, your parents, your friends.

In a nutshell, Happiness-Advocacy enables you to face life.
By learning constantly from life. Every day of your life.
You are now never caught unawares.
When any unhappy-situation arrives, you know from the very many learning, how to tackle it.

You are strong. You are happiness-ready.

The Golden Rule: Advocate happiness - at least once a day. Spread it. And feel the difference.
Of course- with absolutely no side effects it can be done as many times a day as you want.
The only special effect it has is...it brings MORE happiness to you.

So are you a Happiness-Advocate...

--HI!

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Is Sound sleep a dream? Try Grounded-in-the-Moment Technique

HI !
Welcome to Happiness@1KgPerDay


The Assumption:
At Happiness Incorporated (HI!), we believe Happiness is a nutrient.
A Mega Nutrient.
We want to believe Vitamins could be sufficient in micro-units, but with Happiness nothing short of 1Kg would do.


The Act:
Happiness@1KgPerDay is an electro-human attempt to make sure we at HI! contribute towards your daily intake of 1Kg.



The Dose:
Title: Is Sound sleep a dream? Try Grounded-in-the-Moment Technique


Many of us are constantly troubled by a lack of sound sleep - with its effect known to most.
Lethargy, Passivity, Ennui.

One cause - mind's thought processing continues during the so called sleep time. Physically the body is resting but mind is not getting its due share of "rest" (since it needs to process thoughts).

This 'overtime' by the mind is because of the daytime's unfinished business.
Complex situations created before us (like a quarrel with spouse) are inventoried to be processed 'later'. Subconsciously we refuse to deal with them right then and there. We choose to look away when the challenge faces us in that moment. This 'residue' is there at our bedside and quietly knocks into our dreams when we really want to sleep.


Grounded-in-the-Moment technique solves it for you. It means that you remain firmly grounded, looking completely fearlessly at this challenge that arises before you during the waking hour. This challenge could range from your not-so-good appraisal after an year's hard work to a sarcastic remark from a trusted friend. Things that usually make you demoralized, unhappy immediately or pretty soon after they 'occur' .

What it means to be Grounded-in-the-Moment? It is simple. For instance, when you aim at a dartboard, you don't move, shift, or look away. You are Grounded-in-the-Moment. You just focus on the challenge - The Bull's eye. You thus have all the capacity to solve and face the complex operation. Such a process finishes without any residue being left, any inventorying of issues for the mind to process later.

Of course, sometimes you are not able to solve the problem or overcome this challenge (i.e. you miss the Bull's eye!). Then what? Is there any residue left? The greatest fact about this technique is - irrespective of your success (and yeah...your failure) at the so-called 'successfully solving the problem', the residue is never left if you simply had faced the challenge in the first place - fully & finally without fearing it.

Its simple. Just look at the challenge as it arises. You meet it where it arises. Don't give it an opportunity to chase you, haunt you later.
Try NOT-leaving the daytime residue behind and experience a change.


Happy Sound Sleeping


-HI !
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A Guide to Dequeuing the Mind

HI!
Welcome to Happiness@1KgPerDay


The Assumption:
At Happiness Incorporated (HI!), we believe Happiness is a nutrient.
A Mega Nutrient.
We want to believe Vitamins could be sufficient in micro-units, but with Happiness nothing short of 1Kg would do.


The Act:
Happiness@1KgPerDay is an electro-human attempt to make sure we at HI! contribute towards your daily intake of 1Kg.



The Dose:
A Guide to Dequeuing the Mind:


We are talking of those hours and days where our mind (involuntarily- semi or fully) keeps going round in a circle. We keep thinking of that same action, same fear, same hurt, that image, that thought. This acts as an input to our mind which leads to the same old, non-fresh output state in us. This process goes on more strongly with negative inputs creating a negative state in most of us - not an equilibrium state of happiness. So we feel lethargic and non-cheerful while all this goes on.

Dequeing is a technique of transforming this unpleasant (recurring) input. It says 'transform the old input since old input can just produce the old non-cheerful output. Pump fresh inputs and see yourself feeling elated and happy.

Pumping fresh input is easy- just close your eyes for 20 seconds (positively) and see your own face overlaid with a smile.


--HI!

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