Anxiety, the Happiness-Bouncer

The Dose: Anxiety, the Happiness-Bouncer


Happy-weight: A weight that You always want to gain !

With The Dose, we make sure You are never on a dieting schedule.

We want You to gain Happy-weight. Be regular with The Dose !



We revisited 3 of The Doses to make sure we keep reminding You that Happiness is about acting to­wards it. At least 3 Kg Happy-weight under Your control—for ever.



Let's continue with our revisit. Today revisiting The Dose most crucial for 'Life' in Your Life.

Our guess is– it is a life-condition most of us can identify with.

Anxiety. Mild, moderate and Wild. We are not sorry - even if the word is too scary to You.

In fact, that's the reason it's here.

For a control over Anxiety.

Your Control.



The Dose 4: Managing Anxiety – Some call it a lifestyle problem, some call it a personal prob­lem. What do we call it? Happiness-Bouncer. Anxiety makes sure You don't enter the arena of freshness, Happiness. It will bounce You back. And it does its job perfect!

Everyone is having a nice time fighting it day in and day out. Isn't it? Like social networking sitess fighting it out for attention.

Within You and without You—anxiety is easy to spot. We saw "The Dose" on Managing Anxiety. Did You find an opportunity to experiment with changes due to healthier deductions in your life. Did You manage to spot any Truth in that the art of mastering anxiety lies in healthy Deduc­tions after all.

And what after all are "Healthy Deductions" — Healthy and smart ways to defeat stressful and demanding situations in Life. Simple "confidence-generating" attitude towards demanding situa­tions. Powerful because healthy deductions help You set the rules of the "confidence-game". Rather than letting the demanding event decide the rules of (its) winning.

It builds confidence because, the higher your assessment of your own ability to handle things in life, lower is your anxiety. Simply by deducing an event in your favor, the best outcome is achieved (some call it "attitude" which is a way of deduction towards all challenges).

Try it. You will see it. As we say at HI !, act, see, believe.

— Happiness Incorporated !

You must have put on at least 7 Kg more Happy-weight

HI !
Welcome to Happiness At 1 Kg Per Day

The Assumption: At Happiness Incorporated (HI!), we be­lieve Happiness is a nutrient.
A Mega Nutrient.
Vitamins could be sufficient in micro-units, but with Happi­ness nothing short of 1Kg would do.

The Act: Happiness At 1 Kg Per Day is an electro-human attempt to make sure we at HI! contribute towards your daily Happiness intake of 1Kg.


The Dose
You must have put on at least 7 Kg more Happy-weight over last week. And why not!! You have had seven regular Daily Doses of Happiness this full week.
Definitely a good head start if you actually implemented The Doses in your daily life.

Let's review our progress towards Happiness—gradually.
Those of us who missed a couple of this week's The Doses can as always have them at www.happinessincorporated.blogspot.com .

The Dose 1: Deque-ing- The art of transforming all unpleasant recurring stale thought. This becomes a natural action for You as You understand that the old input produces only old non-cheerful output.

Pumping-in of fresh inputs to yourself must have surely made you feel elated and happy!!!

The Dose 2: Grounded-in-the-Moment Technique. Meeting life-challenges as & where they arise. Never looking away when the challenges strike. Because otherwise, if given an opportunity by You, i.e. if You look away from the challenge, the challenge will be more than pleased to haunt you.

You must have experienced the exuberance You feel when You did not leave any of the daytime resi­due (by looking away we leave residue of the entire situation...not a fresh thing to do) behind.

The Dose 3: Happiness Advocacy. Sure enough you have tried this extraordinary opportunity to ap­preciate your Life's Happiness - by seeing closely and appreciating "what makes people around me happy & unhappy?" Your appreciation for Happiness, its value to You and its need in your daily life is greatly enhanced by You advocating Happiness with your closed and far ones alike. To recall, we saw that in the process of advocating Happiness to others around You, You would gradually master the art of being prepared for all events in your own Life.

In the end, You be Happy even when surrounded with testing situations in Life! Look who's feeling confident these days!

And Last but never the least.
The Golden Rule of Happiness:
Happiness is too little of reading about Happiness.
Happiness is a little about passively thinking about Happiness.
Happiness is too much about acting to demand Happiness for Yourself.

So Act to Get Happiness.
Coz It pays to be Happy.

— Happiness Incorporated !

Discover your Intention, Discover Yourself

HI ! Welcome to Happiness At 1 Kg Per Day

The Assumption:
At Happiness Incorporated (HI!), we believe Happiness is a nutrient.
A Mega Nutrient.
Vitamins could be sufficient in micro-units, but with Happiness nothing short of 1Kg would do.

The Act:
Happiness At 1 Kg Per Day is an electro-human attempt to make sure we at HI! contribute towards your daily Happiness intake of 1Kg.


The Dose:
Discover your Intention, Discover Yourself


"Have I been true to myself ?", You would sometimes find yourself wondering. You wonder what has been the real "Intention" behind what You said, or not said, did or did not do. This may sometimes be apparent through your actions and at other times in others' actions done to You.

Indeed many of your acts, gestures and behaviours (towards others like your colleagues) may make You face this question.The question is relevant. The question is important for You.

Because if you can manage a correct answer to this question, You are more free, You are less hypocritical. You are more confident of who you are. In short, You are more You if You answer it successfully, truly.

That being true, how do you sincerely answer that question - not for your friends, your known ones, for others, but only for your own self.

Read the Sequence: A sincere answer to this question is had by noticing the sequencing of your own thoughts. The sequence (i.e. order) of those thoughts that made you act, behave in that particular manner. It is strange yet true that Intentions are less determined by the quality of thoughts (yes...even negative thoughts cannot be said to be ill-intentioned). They are much more determined by their sequence, their order of occurrence.

A 'close' friend has asked you for your time.

Your Thought Sequence number 1: I don't have time today. Let me refuse her. She will feel dejected for sure. But She will not be falsely dependent on me. She and her work will benefit by my rejection overall.

Your Thought Sequence number 2: Oh God. She has been such a 'good' friend. What will she think of me. Today I don't want to give her time. But why did she ask me for my time. I have none. Can't she see! She could have asked me yesterday. It would have saved me this embarrassment of saying no. What will she think of me now. Let me promise now. Later I can say sorry and give her a reason too.

Sequence 2 being particularly longer is no co-incidence.
Because most good things in life are simple and straight forward.
And Your Intentions are no exception.

--HI!

Take Better Decisions: Use the Stability Principle

HI !
Welcome to Happiness At 1 Kg Per Day

The Assumption:
At Happiness Incorporated (HI!), we believe Happiness is a nutrient.
A Mega Nutrient.
Vitamins could be sufficient in micro-units, but with Happiness nothing short of 1Kg would do.


The Act:
Happiness At 1 Kg Per Day is an electro-human attempt to make sure we at HI! contribute towards your daily Happiness intake of 1Kg.


The Dose:
Take Better Decisions: Use the Stability Principle

Not a day passes when you do not have to take decisions.
However Small or Big - Decisions continue to demand an answer from you- day in and day out.
And often there is no alternative to taking definitive decisions. You simply have to decide.

Post-Decision: very often a feeling of dissatisfaction lingers after you have taken a decision.
Many times even when you have decided, you somehow keep returning to feeling that the one alternative you did not choose would have been better (esp for the so called 'big' decisions in life) .

This situation is not a comfortable one to be in. You yourself can rate the life quality where such a post-decision dissatisfaction has become a routine occurrence - a daily juggling between competing alternatives - where each somehow seems better than the rest.

One stands to gain from The Stability Principle. The Stability Principle can largely reduce this post-decision dissatisfaction.
It helps you choose the alternative that gives you the optimal satisfaction - after being decided for. This is after all the objective of you making any decision.

For instance, when you switch jobs, the decision of choosing a firm is based on your assessment of where your optimal satisfaction lies. This principle is based on the observation that the one alternative that is adjudged as the best (by You) in the Stable states of your being (essentially remaining calm, restful, un-agitated) is indeed the best alternative. Thus, The Stability Principle advises you to go for the alternative that seems the best in your stable states of mind.

Stable State of mind is not a hypothetical entity. Just avoid juggling between alternatives at the 11th hour. This is because, most likely, the alternative chosen when you are anyways agitated by the arrival of the decision-moment (performance anxiety) is less than optimal.


A Stable Decision is the one which is taken during Stable States of your being. Be Confident.


--HI !

Up Against Happiness-Blockers? Act

HI !
Welcome to Happiness@1KgPerDay

The Assumption:
At Happiness Incorporated (HI!), we believe Happiness is a nutrient.
A Mega Nutrient.
Vitamins could be sufficient in micro-units, but with Happiness nothing short of 1Kg would do.


The Act:
Happiness@1KgPerDay is an electro-human attempt to make sure we at HI! contribute towards your daily intake of 1Kg.

The Dose:
Happiness is too little of reading about Happiness
Happiness is a little about passively thinking about Happiness.
Happiness is too much about acting to demand Happiness for Yourself.

So Act to Get Happiness.

--HI !

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Implement Verbal Harmlessness in Your Relationships

HI !
Welcome to Happiness@1KgPerDay

The Assumption:
At Happiness Incorporated (HI!), we believe Happiness is a nutrient.
A Mega Nutrient.
Vitamins could be sufficient in micro-units, but with Happiness nothing short of 1Kg would do.


The Act:
Happiness@1KgPerDay is an electro-human attempt to make sure we at HI! contribute towards your daily intake of 1Kg.


The Dose:
Implement Verbal Harmlessness in Your Relationships.

Many of your relationships would be extremely important - simply invaluable- to you.
Relationships, for all, continue to be the life-breath.

It follows that your life's quality and Happiness critically depends on relationships you weave.
Most of us apparently realize it; and thus most of us indeed work towards making our relationships more beautiful.

But often we find relationships turning 'unsatisfactory'.
Beauty begins to make way for rules and protocols - to start with. If destined to go worse, erosion of trust sets in gradually. Deterioration sets in.

We struggle within our capacity to stem the tide of unsavoury events. We do everything we can to bring back the happy days. From pleading over unending telephone calls to undertaking emotionally laden discussions.
Yet something seems missing very many times. A move to make things naturally healthy.

Verbal Harmlessness may be the thing for you. Verbal Harmlessness can beautifully transform relationships that at some point turned sour (for no good reason many a times).

Verbal Harmlessness works in relationships where things were not meant to proceed the way they actually proceeded. Thus it is suitable in cases where the foundation of the relation is based on sincerity - but misunderstanding is calling the cards somehow.

Verbal Harmlessness as a strategy implies reducing the unconscious, anger-generated, hurt-based responses on your part. These and many other responses in relationships are ' verbally harmful responses'. The exact way such verbally harmful responses are reduced may vary with issue at hand and nature of the relationship. However, the strong commonality between all such measures of achieving Verbal Harmlessness is to invoke (and recall into the moment) the crux on which the relationship is based. If the relationship bound you, made your life beautiful at one point- it had a crux. The crux still lingers deep down, just that it gets lost in what is called as the 'responsibility diffusion'- the issue of 'who does it first'.

In fact, Verbal Harmlessness is not just a strategy to make relationships work. It is a tribute from you, as an equal participant in the relationship. 'Strategy'- it is being called - to make doubly sure that you feel its practical and useful.

Verbal Harmlessness is a tribute in your intention; strategy in your implementation.


--HI !

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Manage your Anxiety - How Deductions can help you

HI !
Welcome to Happiness@1KgPerDay

The Assumption:
At Happiness Incorporated (HI!), we believe Happiness is a nutrient.
A Mega Nutrient.
Vitamins could be sufficient in micro-units, but with Happiness nothing short of 1Kg would do.


The Act:
Happiness@1KgPerDay is an electro-human attempt to make sure we at HI! contribute towards your daily intake of 1Kg.


The Dose:
Manage your Anxiety - How deductions can help you.

Anxiety remains the single largest contributor to performance decrements.
Anxiety- like an intelligent spy- gets onto your nerves during the most critical phases of your life.
Anxiety more often than not strikes you during those 'high-return' events in life that have the potentiality to change a lot of things for the better. Potentially step up the success factor in your life. As if anxiety knows where it is invited the most- at events where your performance needs to be the best. Anxiety strikes and makes you yield much decreased performance outcomes.

Deductions are pretty useful in managing anxiety.
Deductions are nothing but simple yet powerful "ways" in which any anxiety-invoking incidence is faced by you.
Deductions help you to meet the anxiety-invoking event in a way that best aids enhanced performance - and not decrease it. Deduction helps you manage anxiety and ensure a consequent increment in performance.

Deduction: See anxiety in terms of the 'gap' between the perceived event (i.e. an event's anticipation by you, before it occurs) and the actual event (actual occurrence in space and time). Anxiety will always be more if this gap is large.
It is this gap that determines how 'anxious' you are before a particular event.

You have no control over the actual event in most cases. It, thus turns out, is your perception of the event as being larger than your-own-self that induces anxiety. It is important to appreciate this. Anxiety primarily arises because of the perceived gap between your capacity to handle the event and what you think (perceive) the event demands. The actual event's challenge is far away when anxiety strikes. Hence, definitely it is an inferior response on your part. If anxiety's only output is your performance decrement (whatever be the challenge level in actual), you better do away with it.

It is from this observation that you easily learn how to 'deduce' the event in your favour. The best deduction is the one that brings out the best in you. This is all you CAN do - since in most cases the actual event's challenge level is not under your control. The more important thing is not "CAN" but "HAVE".

Best-deduction-practices:
Let's remind ourselves of a starting point. Recall an event (past) that you think you would have finished with much greater output had you managed your anxiety. Did you recall anything?

So you know what to do next time anxiety strikes!


--HI !

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