Happiness- An Outcome of being true to yourself

The Dose: Happiness- An Outcome of being true to yourself


At HI !, we are all set to begin afresh on learning to act towards Happiness. 'The Happiness Dose' next volume is ready to be floated.

Yet Happiness is not to be hurried. So, today we remind ourselves of something rather impor­tant before we start-off with the new volume of pointers to Your Happiness.

To remind ourselves, perhaps, of the most important ingredient of Happiness. The one ingredi­ent to Happiness that You may overlook easily - 'You being true to Yourself'. By far, known to be the most significant determinant of Your lasting Happiness.

The Dose 7 Revisited : Happiness- An Outcome of being true to yourself

Here's an acid test to find how You can differentiate between being true and not-being-true to Yourself.

We take up a real-life situation to throw tons of light on the test. A 'close' friend requests You. This request is a simple one where she needs Your time for something important for her. Let's see two typical responses of human beings (and who are others to tag any one to You. That's your take always !)

Response 1: " I don't have time today. I refuse her. She will feel dejected for sure. But she will at least not be falsely dependent on me. She and her work will not suffer by my rejec­tion. "

Response 2: " Oh God. She has been such a 'good' friend. What will she think of me if I re­fuse. But why did she ask me for my time today . Can't she see! I have none. She could have asked me yesterday. It would have saved me this embarrassment of saying no. What will she think of me now. Let me promise now. Later I can say a ' sorry' and give her some reason."

Response 2 being particularly longer is no co-incidence. All good things (that last) in life are simple and short . When You choose to remain true to Yourself , what you do is a confident, definitive behavior. You don't fool around, You don't deceive. And You don't feel like deceiving, it comes naturally. Because You know You will have to keep it very very complex otherwise and it's You who will get stuck in Life with such deceptive complexities . And Happiness indeed is in being simple to Yourself. Being what You are and letting others know what you are. For then, those who truly love You will matter, not the one's who make You fool around - harming Your own inner-confidence. Others will simply loose their power to affect You negatively .

In innovative terms: "You may fool Happiness into visiting You once in a while. But without You being true to yourself, Happiness somehow knows it's got to leave, pretty quickly."

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